Letting Go Of Perfect & Choosing To Love

Happy Monday Friends!

With Valentine’s Day less than a few weeks away, I have been thinking a lot about LOVE.

How I choose LOVE my children, my husband, our home and last but not least.....
myself.

Through the years I have come to these conclusions...

MY husband doesn’t have to be perfect to be appreciated & adored.

Our boys don’t have to be perfect to be loved unconditionally & valued.

Our home doesn’t have to be perfect to be enjoyed

&

I don’t have to be perfect to be

beautiful.

  A few years back I found myself in

this never ending cycle
of seeking perfection.

 I sought to be the perfect mom, the perfect wife and I sought to keep the perfect home.

I thought if I was perfect then a.

I would be HAPPY and b. I would feel successful, both untrue.

It became exhausting & realized I wasn’t as happy as I thought I was.

Plus, I was driving my husband a little crazy:).

I have to say, he is much happier as odd as it sounds, to be tripping over toys.

I lost myself in the quest for perfection. The funny this is, I was NOT perfect, not by a long shot, but really it was about the control.

Can anyone relate?

One day, I realized something profound.

I saw myself in my son.

He was trying to be perfect too.

He was afraid to take risks because he was afraid to fail or make mistakes.

He would get upset with himself if he did something that wasn’t “perfect” the first time.

That was when it all changed;I knew I needed to refocus this energy into something healthy & positive.

 I began running again, creating and making time for me.

The ironic thing was that I was afraid too.
I was afraid that if I focused on myself that I would be taking (time) away from them,
my boys
&
 hence I wouldn’t be the “perfect” mother.

This was the thing, when I chose to make time for me; I became happier, more fulfilled!

 And that made everything better, not just for me but for the entire familyJ. 

So these days on any given day in my home you may find floors littered with toys and match box cars, dishes in the sink that may not get done until after dinner, piles of laundry that sometimes get put away that night & some that do NOTJ.

In that same house you will find happiness, because instead of trying to be perfect, we have choosen let it go.
And in the process have also choosen to be in the moment more
&
to seek those
"perfect moments" instead.

 

I hope you have a wonderful week,

-Jen
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